Was it wrong to yell at her?

i%26#039;m a 19 year old college student and i also work part time. most of the week i%26#039;m racing back and fourth to get to school or work. some days i%26#039;ll leave 8am and come back 10pm hungry and exahsted. my mom is a stay at home mom %26amp; she does some chores, but mostly winds up shopping with her mom. today, i walk in the door, and she sees i%26#039;m wearing her shoes. they%26#039;re ugly, i don%26#039;t even like them, but i was late for school %26amp; i just hopped into anything. then she bothers me about a jacket that was apprently in my car. then i walk into my room, and she cleaned it while i was gone, she KNOWS i hate that because in the past she%26#039;s read through my diaries and such so i tell her to stay out. i%26#039;m handling work/school stress okay, but when she buts in, i strart feeling out of control like i can%26#039;t handle life. so i yelled at her. when she walked away i could tell she was upset, %26amp; i feel sooo bad. i can%26#039;t even do my HW cause i%26#039;m upset now. why is she making my life harder? was it wrong to yell at her?

Was it wrong to yell at her?
It was definitely right to yell at her.


Reading your diaries is well out of order.


In fact I would go and yell at her again if I was you.
Reply:I know what you feel like, apoligize to her and talk to eachother about what you should do to stop your conflicts.
Reply:Hmm. Well....I am not sure, you really should not take her things with-out permission, but it was wrong to go in your room with-out you letting her....? Maybe you should not have raised your voice at her....
Reply:Do not yell at your mother.


Not for any reason.


You are acting like a spoiled, willful, ungrateful little brat.


If you don%26#039;t want her cleaning your room and reading your stuff, keep it clean yourself, and take your diary with you.


Put a lock on your door and take the key.


If your mother doesn%26#039;t like you wearing her clothes,it is NOT an OPTION. Don%26#039;t do it. Respect her wishes. I don%26#039;t care if your clothes are on fire, wear your own clothes.


If you don%26#039;t like how she runs HER home, MOVE.


That home is your MOTHER%26#039;S HOME, not yours. The one you pay for, plan for, clean, and share with your children is YOUR HOME.


I would have tossed you out on your ear already. No one disrespects me in my own home.
Reply:yelling yes.. talking about no... You just need to let her know your thoughts and meet in the middle with thoughts and rules..
Reply:Yes you were wrong to yell at her. If you used her ugly shoes without asking you were also wrong. And being a stay at home mom is not a easy job.
Reply:She just wants to be in your life. You are so busy with school and work you have no time for her, so she try to feel close to you and know whats going on in your life by going throw your stuff. My mom did the same thing, But I set some time aside for me and her to just talk or go and do something together, nd she stayed out of my stuff. She just misses you. Try to talk to her let her know whats going on in your life , let her feel apart of it. Good luck.
Reply:maybe it was wrong to yell. she probably knows you are under stress and school and work and tried to help you out..but you got mad. go to her and talk to her about it...say thanks for doing it but please don%26#039;t do it again..your gonna need your mom through these hard times...good luck =)
Reply:I think it was wrong. Ive gone through this before. I scream my head off at my ant whs always so nice and she leaves in a very sad voice. I went straight to her and aplogized. What she did was she was cleaning my room and she accidentally dropped my glass sculpter that took me 3 months to finish. I got angry at first. When she left I thought, whats more important? My aunt loving me or some glass sculpture? My aunt loving me of course. I know a diary is supposed to be private but, due tb her you were born and actually got one when you grew up. If you wernt born, you wouldnt have even got a diary. What Im trying to say is youre technically saying:





I perfer a diary more than my mom.





Dude, you yelled at her for a diary!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!...





I know diaries are supposed to be private. But still. Think about it. A diary is more importnt than your mom?????








Well, hope this helps.
Reply:It wasnt wrong to yell at her. You were angry Its better to let out your emotions then bottle them up. also if u feel bad maybe you should apolgize to her depending on how you feel. And your mom probally doesnt relize she stressing you out. you should sit down and talk to your mom
Reply:It was understandable that you were stressed out and frustrated, but that doesn%26#039;t give you the right to lose your temper or take out your frustrations on her.


Keep in mind that she isn%26#039;t deliberately trying to make your life harder - she was actually trying to make it easier by cleaning your room for you. She was trying to be helpful.





Go tell her you%26#039;re sorry you yelled, but you%26#039;ve had a really hard day and you%26#039;re really worn down by all the stuff you%26#039;re doing - school, work, etc. Suggest that you do something nice and fun, just the two of you - forget about everything you HAVE to do and just spend an hour enjoying life (get some hot chocolate or dessert or go to a movie or whatever). This little gesture will give some much-needed relief to both of you.
Reply:Tell her how stressed you are and that you need for things to be a little more calm at home and that this is a hard time for you. Tell her you%26#039;re sorry that you yelled but you felt it was the right thing to do at the time. Ask her nicely that she stay out of your room and that you need some private time when you%26#039;re at home...She should understand.
Reply:I think it probobly was wrong to yell at her I probobly dont kno what im talking about but is it really wrong to clean your room for you. But reading your diary ouch. but still she i your mom I say appologizing would be good to do right now.
Reply:You were feeling very stressed out, and everybody has felt that way. It can be very difficult to control emotions in a situation of that much stress. Yes it was wrong to yell at her, but you should just explain how you feel. Help her understand why you yelled, but first you should appologize. Hope this helps!
Reply:If you take your moms shoes (whether you like them or not), she has a right to be upset, maybe she was looking for them. Was the jacket in your car hers also? If your family is wealthy enough for your mother to %26quot;stay at home%26quot; or shop all day, why do you have to work? Obviously this situation isn%26#039;t working out if you%26#039;re gone from the house working/going to school for 14 hours each day. If you don%26#039;t get home til 10pm, when do you do your homework? You need to quit the job and concentrate on your schoolwork. This would be better for both you and your mother. I%26#039;m sure she doesn%26#039;t want to make your life harder. You%26#039;re upset because she %26quot;cleaned%26quot; your room - if you take her stuff, shoes (jacket?), maybe she cleans your room to look for more of her things you%26#039;ve taken? Whatever - wouldn%26#039;t your life be alot better if you didn%26#039;t work and just went to school?
Reply:you sound like a responsible person - save up some money and get your own place.
Reply:Let me guess: she cooks and cleans for you, puts a roof over your head, and generally cares for you. And you think she%26#039;s making your life harder? It%26#039;s time to grow up. If you don%26#039;t want her cleaning your room, then do it yourself. Is your room THAT messy that you can%26#039;t even find a pair of shoes? Start appreciating your mom, apologize for yelling at her, and start acting like an adult so she%26#039;ll treat you like one.
Reply:respect our parents





don%26#039;t yell on them





If a little misunderstanding comes in, talk in a diplomatic way.
Reply:She%26#039;s just struggling that you%26#039;re getting your own life. It%26#039;ll be better on your relationship if you%26#039;re able to move out.
Reply:at your mother yes.i do not understand why two udults cannot sit down and have a conversation.instead you blow up and yell at your mother no matter how mad i get at my mother she is still my mother i would never yell at her have some respect your under her roof while your going to school who do you think you are sorry about your hard day but you know something thats called life do not take it out on your mother you know why some day she might not be there then who you going to yell at someone else you love.next time think before you open your mouth.and if her shoes you hated so much why were you wereing them i don%26#039;t get that one.
Reply:Maybe you both need to start treating each other like adults. Adults ask to borrow other adults things. They also stay out of each other%26#039;s business. Maybe you should discuss this with her in a rational manner.
Reply:Your behavior depends on you. While I understand that you are in a stressful life situation now, screaming or reacting with hostility is non productive. Just make sure you prepare your wardrobe from your own articles.
Reply:Its wrong, maybe your stress got to you, i also know that it is wrong for her to go through ur diary but you should have told her in a calm way at thew end of the day she was there for you since birth
Reply:It%26#039;s always wrong to yell at another person. In this case probably understandable. She cleaned your room because she cares. Lock away your diaries.


Go to her now and explain how stressed you are and you are sorry for yelling. Stay calm and ask her to help you by not doing your room as it upsets you.


She doesn%26#039;t mean to make life harder she is just being a mum.
Reply:I know what you are going through. I am not in collage or anything but i am in 11th grade, work fulltime for a billing company and on top of that i own a company. (www.snowgates.com) Yeah. pretty insane for a 16 year old. If i were you i would take some time to sit down with her and talk things over. Start as Mom i don%26#039;t want to talk to you as mother to daughter instead i want to talk to you as friend to friend. After all she is your mother she must support you through everything. Explain to her all the stress you are going through and ask her to be a bit more supportive. And if you can%26#039;t talk face to face then write a letter that tends to work too.. Good Luck!
Reply:I would not think it was wrong to yell at her but i do think you should just tell her your sorry and that you just don%26#039;t appreciate her doing this and you would prefer to wait till you were home or you would prefer to do iot yourself
Reply:Never yell at your Mom, you%26#039;ll regret it when she%26#039;s gone - trust me.
Reply:hey there, mums have a habit of doing that they think there helping but really there only making things making things worse. try not to feel bad about yelling at her, she%26#039;ll understand just give her a little while...





Go u working and college best of luck wiv it all!!:)
Reply:you%26#039;re under a lot of stress and she knows it ,, also its her house you don%26#039;t have a right to your privacy its not right that she reads your diary !! but do you put it away under lock and key ? buy yourself a small personal locker and a good lock put a note on it and tell her to keep out ,also thank her for cleaning your room, dont let her give you the guilt trip my daughter taught me a thing or two about invadeing her personal space, i did%26#039;nt like her in my room ,good luck and hang in there she loves you it will all be over soon you%26#039;ll be yelling at your own kids and remembering
Reply:Your mom loves you more then you know.One day you will probably have a child and realize how much then.My mom has since past and I yelled at her when I was your age and you will regret and remember the things from the past that you cannot change.From this day forward ,remember your mom means well and you should never yell at your mother.When she is with her mother ,she knows all to soon she may be gone too.Does your mother%26#039;s mother,(your grandma) need help shopping etc.?Try to treat people like you want to be treated.Also treat them each day as if it may be the last time you see them.You never know what tomorrow will bring .
Reply:sometimes are feelings get in the way...other times we just have to let out a little steam...there is no saying wether it was right or wrong...as long as she know that you are sorry then there is no harm done



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