How would you react?

I'm not really an aggresive person and today at the petrol station, this woman was glaring at me with one of the meanest faces I had seen in a long time, she only kept walking because she saw my dog in the car. Now, I wasn't looking at her when she started approaching me but, I'm wondering if perhaps I look a certain way to attract this or if it is just that race who always decides to start trouble with me. I've never been confronted by any other race only this one. Is it me or them?, would you have glared back and got your head kicked in or what? By the way, I'm not a young punk either, I'm a 28 year old mother of two and I was wearing my work uniform. Slacks, polar fleece jacket, flat shoes and no make-up.

How would you react?
I was just thinking about this issue the other day. I'm a teacher at a university and sometimes I walk into class and people will be glaring at me. I used to be a little insecure about it and think there was sometime wrong with me or I was doing something that they didn't like. However, as time went on, I realized that some people just have glaring expressions as their "normal" expression. Those students are always glaring, but it's not because their irritated, it's just how they hold their face. I don't let it get to me anymore. I would hope the same is true in your situation.





As far as the race question goes...people are people. There are nice people and there are jerks, regardless of their race. I've had people of all races be extremely nice to me, and I've also experienced the other extreme. I don't think the race issue is the case in your situation...unless you have a big confederate flag bumpersticker on your car. I would say just try buying your gas in a nicer area if it is a continuous problem.





I hope I've helped. Remember that just because someone is mad doesn't mean their mad at you, you just crossed their path at the wrong time.





AND...as much as you want to send a glare right back at them, it always makes the situation worse when you do. Just keep cool.


...If this stuff happens to you often, maybe get some Mace spray and put it on your keychain.





Good luck.
Reply:Maybe you looked like a lesbian, and that was her "I want you look", and not her "I want to kick your butt look".
Reply:Not really, Dont bother about some people.Maybe she was mentally ill.Who knows? dont think so much about races as such.
Reply:I would have blown an rasberry at her.
Reply:maybe she just stares
Reply:why care about this kind of pple , nothing to worry .


i will not do anything at all , if someone glaring at me like she did to you i would tell myself that she was jealous of me !
Reply:she was just hiding her feelings from u.....she is a lesbien....she was just pretendig that she hated u so it wont look so obviouse that she is a lesbien
Reply:Just blow it off its her problem . I had one lady yell at me for no other reason than I was white . She just assumed because I was white I didn't care for her nationality .Said I better watch my white backside .I said what's your problem I don't even know you. I had done nothing to her.Not been rude or cut her off or anything some people are plain rude and feel they have to have one up man ship.





You know I think now at age 49 I would just totally smile at her be ever so friendly, may even say You have a nice day now as she walked away .She would be so confused she wouldn't know what to think.It would totally blow her away. Then take off in the car waveing at her.
Reply:You are taking yourself entirely to seriously,I believe you are creating all of this yourself.Good Luck!
Reply:Was race the first thing you noticed about her and the only thing you remember? Sounds like you need to think that through...





There are nutballs of every race, color, creed, and gender. I tend to give them a wide berth regardless of skin color.
Reply:If someone glares at me I usually ask them what their problem is... it may be something I did, or it may be that there is something about me that they don't care for. Maybe my looks, maybe the way I dress. Maybe I cut them off in the road, who knows...


But if they want to stare/glare then I usually try to find out what the problem is.
Reply:I would be upset too. Could it be that you are paranoid of the reaction of others and are imagining it? Could also be that you live somewhere that has an abundance of rude folks. If that's it just ignore them, who cares what they think anyway. If you feel that way a lot though maybe you are feeling things that are not really there. Insecurity maybe?
Reply:sometimes we can be so unaware of how our emotions can be perceived by other people. perhaps she 'was loking through you' not at you, or perhaps you were scowling without realising it looking 'through her' and she took offence. sorry you had an experience like this, but its a learning experience. :)
Reply:avoid the stare. that's what i do.


on the road i avoid eye contact to avoid road rage.


in public i avoid negative stare to avoid jerks and confrontation.


i have a gun but it's always the very, very last resort.


just look the other way. be at peace with urself.
Reply:Why do you even care?


I wouldn't give a f***ck!


A Person I don't even know can't make me upset by just looking mean at me.


You should just be cool about it!!!
Reply:If it was a guy doing that to me, I would knock him to the ground. He has no right doing that to me, utter disrespect, if you do not show me respect, I am an A**hole to you. I only give respect to those who do the same in return. If it was a women.... I was raised not to hit a women in any way, so I would probably try to ignore it the best I acn.
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Reply:Perhaps she was having a hard day... she might have not even been looking at you (perhaps through you) and didn't realize the kind of effect she had on you.





Either way, just ignore it. Sometimes people are weird and nothing happened because of it. Have confidence in yourself - you're a great person, who cares what other people think!
Reply:Kill them with kindness... I work retail, I know ALL about being on the recieving end of someone's bad day just becuse I asked to see their ID with their credit card with 'SEE ID' written on back... The way I look at it, for all I know they could have just burried their only child. I don't know what people are going through, but I know I can smile and try to pass on kindness.



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