I have met a guy who is nice but..........?

he is kind of boring. He has many good qualities and seems interested. Since I am not seeing anyone else seriously, I might consider him but there are some things that I don't like about him. I am having a relationship with a married man whom isn't going to leave his wife (I never asked him to though) and he is my ideal of a sexy man. He is successful, slim, attractive, sophisticated, likes the better things in life and has good manners. The guy that is persuing me has a good job and nice home and all, but he lacks sophistication (he kinda embarrased me the other day) he likes some nice things but seems to prefer barbacueing (o.k. sometimes but not as a regular date), racing, hunting, fishing, etc. I like to get dressed up and go places and I really can't say I enjoy any of the fore mentioned activities any more than he would like going shoe shopping with me. He also could stand to lose some weight. Am I being to picky. I know I could never enjoy having sex with him.

I have met a guy who is nice but..........?
Ok, you're not excited by him, so far he's clearly not "the one",but you are wondering if you shouldn't marry him anyway because he's a decent guy and maybe you're just too picky for your own good. I would say, don't do it yet. If you're not really happy to be with him, then you don't want to commit to spending the rest of your life with him. I would stay friends, keep in touch, see how things go--maybe you will get closer--and keep looking. There's nothing wrong with having a male friend, instead of a lover.
Reply:Too bad you have to compare him with the married guy. I find it is pretty much a fact, women are attracted to men that are in a relationship already. He may be mr. perfect except, he is a cheater.





I don't think you should settle for less than someone that is right for you either. This is what I learned recently...





You cannot be certain of changing anyone except for yourself, but... Why not bring these concerns (weight, sex, wilderness dating, etc...) up to your second place man and give him the chance to decide for himself if he is willing to search for a compromise. At least offer him the opportunity to meet your standards.








As far as embarrassing you. Was this something that was a direct belittling of you in public or was it sympathy embarrassment over his actions which should have embarrassed him.





Lets cut to the quick... Love can overcome nearly anything. Love can make the sex feel a lot better, love can change you into a chubby chasser or even let you enjoy cleaning fish... how does it do this? It does this by masking these things over with togetherness.





The question is, can you love him?
Reply:You are too picky,like all other women!Keep the guy and live a life.Leave married one, it is a sick relation.
Reply:You obviously don't want to see this 'nice' guy, so don't lead him on. Leave him to find a girl who does like bbqs, fishing and hunting, wherever she may be!


You also, obviously, like this other guy, who sounds amazing to be honest, but he's MARRIED!!! And also, he's a cheater! You don't want that kind of guy!


Sorry, but I think the best thing for you is to stop seeing both guys and see who else is out there and avaliable.


I promise you, you will find a single guy who has all the qualities that your married man has, but he'll only have eyes for you.


Besides, you're too good for both of those losers.
Reply:your stuck up
Reply:If there is a question in there it is rhetorical. Just keep on doing your thing with the married guy. Someone else will come along. If not you will just die like the rest of us, lonely and single.
Reply:Hun, you are never going to change him so why bother putting up with the headache, especially if u 'KNOW' that sex would be bad. This is a no brainer as u write the question and I have to wonder if u have a brain...I hope u r not blonde...Don't give the rest of us a bad rep, ok?
Reply:Okay hun you are looking at this completely from the wrong perspective. Your old guy, the married man... he may have all sorts of sophistocation and good qualities but you'll never get over the fact that HE CHEATS ON HIS WIFE. That means in your relationship with you he already starts out a liar. You like a liar and want to get involved with him, do you realize that makes him likely to cheat on you too?





Second of all there are worse things in life than being boring or unsophistocated LIKE BEING A LIAR. Be that as it may if you are genuinly not interested it doesn't matter how nice he is to you you owe it to him to tell him honestly that you're not interested. He is not going to change and you probably won't either. Just admit that it's a bad match and find a new SINGLE guy that you can enjoy.
Reply:You should be careful who you hang out with i have experience with this my boyfriend use to hurt me!
Reply:hi, like the other ppl here, i don't recommend the relationship with the married man, but i'm not going to lecture you about that lol. i understand where you're coming from with wanting to get dressed up and go out on nice dates, i do too! and i think guys should take us on nice dates at least once in awhile! i've met too many guys lately who expect me to go kayaking with them lol. they need to get guy friends to do that with them, i'm too much of a girly-girl lol. you sound the same way, so i hear ya! anyway if i were you, i'd forget both of these guys and go try the speed dating like i suggested in my last answer to you lol :) if there's one near you! good luck!
Reply:no u r not picky but u must adjust if u want him or else c sumone else...



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